Most psychologists believe that by age five a person’s character is fully developed. The words spoken to us and about us during these first five years do play an important role in the following years to come as to who we believe we are as individuals, but I am here to tell you that we all have great purpose. This purpose is a part of our DNA, like our hair color or eye color. Regardless of what others have or have not told us about ourselves our given purpose was handed over to you when you took your first breath.

Regardless of what circumstances you come from and who you have been told you are, does not matter. Once you start to take control of your own belief of who you are today, your purpose will find you. Most believe that they need to find their purpose. They search for it in jobs, other people, wealth, and intellectual knowledge, but if you just turn inward your purpose will come to you. People tell me all the time that I need to find my purpose and then I will be happy. People, in general, believe that some day they can be happy. Well, “someday” is not a day in the week and now is the time to be all that you were created to be.

James Allen, quoting Solomon, wrote in his seminal book, “As a man thinketh, so is he.”

Today I am going to show you exactly how this works and once a person understands this; there is nothing he cannot do. The first step is to listen to what it is you are telling yourself throughout the day. You would be surprised what you say to yourself, but would never talk that way to another person. The next step is to ask yourself if the things you are saying are “your truth” or is it someone else’s truth about you. Once you have figure out who is really “talking,” take that information and put it into a positive sentence. A sentence that today reflects who you are.

Now you are probably saying I want to be “this way” but I am not there yet. Now this is the tricky part, you are going to live each day of your life in the present moment, but speak yourself into the future of who you were always created to be; before others and circumstances filled us with their beliefs.

It looks like this: I have a client that was told at five that she was fat and lazy, by a person she really looked up to and that was it. If her big sister said this it must be true. When we started working on her beliefs of “who” she is, this came up. Twenty two years later, she still believed she was worthless.

Once we identified that this was not Gloria*’s truth, but her sister’s truth, Gloria* replaced the word lazy in her thoughts when that would come up about herself with words that she was an energetic and productive person. Before she knew it, this became her real truth of who she is today!

Empowering yourself comes from creating words that move you forward to your purpose that is waiting for you *name changed to protect confidentiality
 

Stacy Walston with Barbara Wainwright and Berry Fowler, Hawaii Class of February 2010